I have
never had more people tell me that “we all could die in a car accident tomorrow”.
Nor did
I realize I knew so many psychic people telling me “don’t worry, you’ll be fine!”
They
have no idea how much restraint it takes not to grab throats and shake heads yelling,
“I have lung cancer! I worry that is what I do!” … and gee thanks if I was not already
worrying about lung cancer now I am freaking out about getting in a car
tomorrow!
Deep
breaths, they mean well … leave their fate to karma.
Now on
the other hand when out and about with my wife, Patti, I may experience the most
peculiar phenomena of them all - I do not have lung cancer, at least not in her
now.
Dementia
like symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis all but erase her memory especially short
term. Unless I remind and continue to remind her that I have lung cancer …
well, I don’t.
No
awkward conversations. No unspoken words. No not talking about the future and
such. We just talk as if the past nine months never happened, which at least
for her they never did. Focused on the caregiving needs of her physical and
cognitive symptoms of MS - it's 'forget you! lung cancer', at least for awhile.
"It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Patrick Leer
BLOGS:
Caregivingly Yours, MS Caregiver @ http://caregivinglyyours.blogspot.com/
My Lung Cancer Odyssey @ http://lung-cancer-survivor.blogspot.com/
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